Brian and I are honored to be speakers for the FamilyLife Weekend to Remember. This wonderful 3-day getaway is designed to help nurture couples in their marriages. No matter the state of your current marriage, this weekend focuses on building oneness between you and your spouse. During the getaway I mention books and resources that might be beneficial to your marriage and family. I get requests for the following books and quotes often, so here they are in an easy-to-find format.
Find out more about a Weekend to Remember HERE.
Books I Mention (and highly recommend) at the Weekend to Remember:
A Way of Hope from FamilyLife. Order: HERE
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship by Leslie Vernick
Staying Close by Dennis and Barbara Rainey (this is the Weekend to Remember in book form)
For Woman Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn
Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by William Cutrer and Sandra Glahn
Red-Hot Monogamy by Bill & Pam Farrel
Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
Kiss Me Again by Barbara Wilson
Grace Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel
God’s Design for Sex (explaining sex to children using a series of age-appropriate books) by Carolyn Nystrum, Stan Jones, Brenna Jones
After the tragic death of her husband, my sister, Kim, wrote me this email after I asked her how she respected her man. Her response was amazing.
Sometimes I would think to myself, “Honey, I love you, but I just don’t respect you right now.” I thought I was letting my husband down easy. In my mind, if he knew I loved him despite some of the things he was doing, that would make him feel better – maybe even motivate him to become the sort of man I could respect. I had totally missed my part in Ephesian 5:33. Amazingly, God does not specifically exhort me to love my husband – he knows I can do that pretty easily. He tells me to respect my husband…and the shocking part is: He doesn’t put conditions on it. He asks my husband to love me unconditionally – independent of what my husband does! How can I do this? How can I do it when my husband makes bad choices? How can I do it when he doesn’t treat me lovingly? How can I do it when he isn’t following the Lord? I can do it because I trust God. It’s that simple: Do I trust God enough to respect my husband unconditionally? You see, God created my husband with the need to be respected – a need that sometimes goes beyond even the need to be loved. If God created that need, He chose me to fulfill it.
*Please note that if you are a woman in an abusive relationship, I urge you to tell someone and get yourself to a safe place. Part of loving and respecting a man could be holding him accountable for his actions. See book recommendations above.
Quote from Zig Ziglar:
I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person, but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s possible that you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you marry the right person, and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person. in short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.
The Hormone of Love (quoted from Kiss Me Again by Barbara Wilson)
Scientists have discovered that in addition to releasing chemicals during sex, the brain also releases a hormone called oxytocin, and these work together to create a strong bond between people. This invisible bond works like superglue, permanently attaching us emotionally and spiritually to a lover. This bonding happens with everyone with whom we have sex – whether we’re married or single and whether the sex is consensual or forced. It’s what God was talking about when He said that with sex ‘two will become one flesh’ (Mark 10:8).
If you have any questions or if there is something I mentioned that is missing from this page, please contact me: firstname.lastname@example.org