Phew, that’s a long title, but this short book is well worth the read! I loved it!
Since Brian and I speak for FamilyLife on the topic of marriage and family, I’m always looking for good books that inspire healthy relationships. And I can highly recommend this book for just that.
Shaunti Feldhahn has the ability to put into short and easy-to-read books the truth about men (For Women Only), woman (For Men Only), kids (For Parents Only) and now marriages, based on research and interviews. I loved For Woman Only and highly recommend it when I speak to women all across this country. Brian even read it (despite the title!) and said, “Yes! That is, in the simples form, how I think and feel!” She nailed it! I haven’t ready For Parents Only, but it’s next on my list!
And she does it again in TSSHHM (that is my abbreviation – again, maybe veering from the “for only” title was a mistake?). The chapters are short and plainly put. Each one explains the habit or trait happy marriages contain. The chapter ends with a section called “Survey Says” that gives the findings in survey form. I’m not a percentages gal, but for some this section will confirm with “proof” that this stuff really does work.
One of my favorite parts of the book is when Shaunti encourages the reader that this book can help any marriage. READ BELOW – It’s SO encouraging!!
It turns out that positive changes in a marriage rarely depend on one difficult spouse suddenly becoming an altogether different person. Usually, the opposite is true. Change – even in challenging marriages – most often starts with one immediate, practical, and surprising choice. A choice made by just one partner. And you can make it.
I’m so thankful that I have a highly happy marriage, and I found traits of my marriage in almost every secret mentioned. Still, I found myself trying to incorporate these habits even more. After all, no marriage is perfect, and Brian and I still have areas where we need to grow.
I also appreciate how this book could be for a Christian or one who doesn’t follow the teachings of Christ. The author explains that these “secrets” can be for any marriage and most chapters focus on the habit, not totally spiritualizing everything. It does have a chapter titled, “Look Higher” that states: Highly happy couples tend to put God at the center of their marriage and focus on Him, rather than on their marriage or spouse, for fulfillment and happiness. Otherwise, the book stays focused on the little things that make a big difference in any successful marriage relationship.
Get it! Get it! Buy it for someone you know who needs it – or read it yourself and start doing just one of the habits. Then stand back and watch marriages grow, change and improve. Christmas gift idea: check!